The buzzwords of Work-Life balance get thrown around all the time - something that we are all searching for - like the Holy Grail! The elusive "state of being" but do we really know what that looks like for us? I know from talking to people, defining it usually doesn't come up in the conversation. When you think about it, it would actually different for each person so knowing what you want that balance to look like is the first step in achieving it. For me, first off, I want to define it as Life-Work Balance to put the emphasis on Life or Living. To be honest, I've never really defined it myself. I once read something in my dear friend Jill's yoga studio by a master teacher that said something to the effect of "when work is play and play is work, then you have mastered the balance". I think for me that is partly true, but utimately, my idea of play has nothing to with being on a computer so although I enjoy writing and creating blogs such as this, this is not play, it is work.
My husband and I were in Italy recently and decided to rent a scooter for a day or two. When we finally found a place - the only one in about 50km radius of where we were staying, it was closed as indicated by the sign shown here. When it did open, we were disappointed to learn that, for reasons our limited Italian did not allow us to understand (something to do with the weather we thought) none were available to rent for the rest of the week. But you'll note the standard hours of operation - everyday closed between 12:30 and 2:30 p.m. for their long lunch. In my world of coaching clients, rest and digest is the standard saying to improve people's digestion. This long lunch would certainly allow for that and focus on Life-Work Balance: with the focus on Life, and health.
Italy is also the originating country of the Slow Food Movement: to focus on food and the preparation of meals as a time for family and friends to gather, to share company and conversations, to learn food preparation and cooking techniques that are getting lost from one generation to the next. Restaurants that we went to on our trip still embrace the three hour sitting for meals and nothing is rushed in a good restaurant. Even our favourite Foccaceria's and "fast food" meal stops, had the freshest of food prepared from scratch. I love that these trends have been embraced by so many in the food industry in North America, notably in the last 5 years. I still feel we have a long way to go to embrace this at home and with Families. When companies allow more work from home to cut down on people's commutes, the work day maybe set to 6 instead of 8 hours and 6-8 weeks of vacation become the norm (as most European countries have), then perhaps overall, more people in North America will feel they are able to actually experience that elusive Life-Work balance and feel like they are really living!
As we move into September and typically a very busy time of year for most people, I encourage you to think about what Life-Work Balance is for you and a few small steps you can begin to take to achieve it.
Here are some tips for daily stress relief:
1. Meditation. As little as 15 minutes of meditation per day to focus on deep breathing and calm the mind has been shown to be effective to help with mood, focus, etc. Upload some soft music or a guided meditation on your phone that you can listen to at a time that works best for you.
2. Exercise. Through exercise and the release of endorphins, your mood will naturally lift and will help to reduce the release of stress hormones. Exercise doesn't have to be the gym either. Do something you love to do and get doing it! Power walking with hiking poles is a great
2. Support System. Ensure you have people you can talk to or be with during your challenging times. Reach out to family, friends, a doctor or therapist who you trust as a good listener.
4. Joy. Do things that you enjoy and that bring you pleasure. Maybe you love to dance, indulge in dinner with a friend, treat yourself to a massage, or have a relaxing bubble bath. This can be viewed as "a little bit of holiday everyday". Something my husband and I coined and are putting into practice.
5. Rest. Ensure you get enough rest and relaxation. Try yoga or meditation to clear your mind. Ensure you get regular and adequate sleep each night to re-charge and re-focus.
Trust that things will get better and that you can get through whatever is stressing you!